Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Has anyone seen my wife Denise? Day 5 after treatment

It's a muggy Sunday afternoon and I have to start off by asking, has anyone seen my wife Denise?  I surely haven't, but it's all part of the master plan that I have very little control over...

But before we talk about the whereabouts of Denise, let's catch up on what an unbelievable supporting cast I have, and quite honestly, why I have been blessed with that supporting cast.  I'm not even in the real throws of this thing and the support, emails, calls, food, labor etc., that has been offered or doled out to me so far is amazing.  So amazing that I sat there thinking, DAMN, I must be the most liked person in the world...until it hit me.  It isn't me.  It's because I married one of the most liked people in the world.  Well, if you can't be them, join them right?  As long as I get to share in the bounty I'm willing to role with it!

My front shrubs got chopped today by my brother in law, thanks John, while my parents paid me a nice visit.  It was great to see them, particularly upright unlike their last visit when my mother took a bad fall.  I constantly receive support emails and calls from family and friends alike which help keep the positive energy going for sure.  Finally, as I sat wondering what to eat to kill the queasy I was feeling, our great friends the Pothier's swung in with some homemade chicken soup which was the best gift EVER along with the French bread.  It's the little things, but oh was it good!  So good it got me off the couch and in front of the computer to do this entry.

Getting back to how it is that I have all of this unconditional support in my life.  As I mentioned, my first reaction to all the support was it must be because I am the most liked person in the world.  Then reality hit, and I knew it was all due to what started 30 years ago in a small mining town just south of the Dakota's.  Well, make that in a small town just south of Milford, MA.  I'll skip all the background and just get to the point.  I tricked her, she married me.  She gave me two beautiful girls along with two beautiful (??) attitudes.  She gave me friends and family beyond anything I ever could imagine.  I actually started to think about my work friends and that I must be the one who at least drove that support.  Unfortunately they all know Denise as well and there goes that angle.  So, I'm willing to live with the support that I am getting every day knowing it is all manufactured from one smart decision I made 21 years ago this month.  Well played Mark, well played!

So with the love story put to bed, where the heck is she you ask.  Well, as I mentioned once earlier I have a fellow throat cancer friend who pointed out to me that he wished he had pushed his wife's friends to get her out a couple times a week to keep her sane during the treatments.  So I quietly mentioned to some friends and her sisters, "hey, if you get a chance during the treaments, take Denise out for a drink now or then to keep her going through this ordeal, I'd really appreciate it..."  BAM, gone the next day for 4 days in a row.  Thursday night out for drinks with friends, Friday night out for drinks and then a band playing with our friend Vanessa at the Trinity in Norton, then BAM, off to the Cape with her sisters for the weekend.  As the doors slammed closed each time I faintly gasped for air and tried to say before she left, 'just a little waaaater plllleeease"...alas, she was gone again.

That's ok.  She's in for a hell of ride the next few weeks so live it up kid!!  Karma baby, karma...

And I still have our dog Shelby who, when I'm home alone just curls up and keeps an eye on me all day long.  When the kids come home she is a bundle of energy.  I will post again on Wednesday after my Dr appointments to share the wealth.  Thanks again.

By the way, I'm told you need google+ to post to my blog.  Sorry for all the confusion people keep telling me about.  Please keep reading, keep posting, and thanks for caring and sharing your thoughts!

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